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Vaginismus - how to have sex pain free with calmness, confidence and ease
In my last article I discussed what causes Vaginismus and today I am want to share how to resolve vaginismus and how you can learn to have sex with freedom, calmness, confidence and ease.
For women who have vaginismus, sex is very challenging because the vagina tenses up and blocks the penis from entering the vagina. It is very difficult to imagine having sex when fear and anxiety is connected to ever thoughts about sex.
Many women need professional help and support to take these steps to having sex for the first time. So today I want to share with you some suggestions to help you prepare your mind, body and heart to have sex for the first time, or perhaps to have sex after a long time.
Relaxation and breathing exercises
Your body and vagina have set up an unconscious behaviour pattern which causes the vagina and body to tense and put up barriers to block any attempts to sex. Learning how to relax your mind and body is essential to overcome vaginismus as if you are scared or anxious your body will immediately tense especially your vagina. Practising yoga and meditation are both wonderful ways to relax and connect with your body.
Talk openly with your partner
Make the unconscious conscious - talk with your partner how you feel, how your body reacts and what your fears are. Don't keep your partner in the dark. Women are often afraid to speak up and share with their partners how they are feeling and what is happening as they worry about the pressure to have sex.
Also, let your partner share with you his feelings and thoughts. This conversation is the gateway to honesty, support and deeper love.
Be intimate with your partner
Don't let vaginismus stop you from being close with your partner. There are others ways to be intimate with other sexually without having sexual intercourse. Massage, kissing, stroking, cuddling and touching each other are wonderful ways to connect with each other on a heart level. Often women who experience vaginismus often fear if they are intimate in this way that it will lead to their partner wanting to have sex - this is why it is essential to be open and honest with each other.
Use dilators to retrain your vagina
Dilators can help to retrain your vagina and create a new body memory of being open, relaxed and safe when you have something in your vagina.
As you go on your vaginismus healing journey remember to take time out to celebrate each achievement and success, feel empowered by them as you continue to take a step towards reaching a fulfilled and happy sex life. If you insert a dilator in deeper than before or your use the next size up - celebrate! When your partner can insert his finger in your vagina or able to insert even the tip of his penis in your vagina - Celebrate!
Vaginismus Treatment Programme
As Europe's leading sex hypnotherapist I have created a healing and empowering vaginismus treatment programme which brings together hypnosis, body coaching, meditation and mind-body connection to create healing and retraining your mind, body and heart to be empowered to overcome vaginismus and start to have sex with ease, comfort and confidence.
It's a step by step process which works with your mindset, how you think and changes the way you process and respond to thoughts. You will resolve Vaginismus underlying issues and create a deeper understanding of yourself as women. You will develop and strengthen your resilience, resources and skills within you for inner-belief, calmness, confidence, and emotional well-being. You will learn how to change the behaviour patterns which are embedded in your body and vagina and sex and create a new response and way of being - which is more physically open.
Your next steps
Embrace each new day with an open heart, mind and body as you begin this new journey to connect with who you truly are.
Are you ready to overcome vaginismus and learn how to retrain your mind, body and heart, so you enjoy sex with freedom, ease, comfort and confidence? Call Linda today - she is here to help.
About Linda Connors
Linda Connors is Europe's Leading Sex Hypnotherapist and provides the vaginismus hypnotherapy treatment programme to professional and successful woman so they have more balance, connection and intimacy in their lives.
To speak with Linda and to apply for the 1-2-1- programme please call 075 3431 3557.