For women who can't have sex
Are you afraid, anxious, worried or scared about sex?
Is painful sex stopping you from enjoying sex?
Perhaps you are here because you are recently diagnosed with vaginismus and feel like you have been given a life sentence and feel like there is no hope. For some women it can be such a huge relief to have a medical diagnosis. While other women are wondering what is next.
What is Vaginismus?
Vaginismus is a vaginal tightness or involuntary contraction causing penetration problems, pain or an inability to experience sexual intercourse. Inserting a finger or tampon or going an internal examination may also cause a lot of discomfort and pain.
Primary vaginismus is the inability to experience sexual intercourse because of the condition.
Secondary vaginismus occurs after a woman has been sexually active but now finds sex difficult, painful or impossible.
What's blocking the penis from entering your vagina
Some women experience vaginismus talk about a wall in their vagina. When a penis or finger gets close to the vagina the wall immediately goes up, the muscles tense and nothing can get through
Why some women experience painful intercourse
There are many reasons, explanations and factors which cause vaginismus. For some the vagina, body and mind becomes conditioned to response in this way. As a result the body and vagina shuts down to “protect” itself.
For example, if your first sexual experience was traumatic, painful, unpleasant or you were not ready to have to have sex. This may generate feelings of anxiety and fears associated with sex and as a result your body trains itself to shut down sexually.
I have also helped women updated their belief systems such as men only want women for sex, or growing up they were told sex has dirty.
Vaginismus can also be caused by relationship issues, medical conditions, sexual abuse and feelings associated with sex can also directly impact how you and your body responds to sex.