The financial structure of the modern world relies on us to fall victim to the happiness crusades – buy this product and you will be happy. Go on this holiday and you will be happy. Get a phone upgrade and you will be happy. This car will make your family complete.
It’s a form of hypnosis and we see it everywhere. Walking down the high street we are bombarded by flashing lights of shops, big bold statements of shopping is who you are, then we have magazine, radio, internet and TV advertising and so. We see it so often it becomes an unconscious mantra "Buy me and you will be happy".
Others fall victims to the when this happens mantra. When I get a new job then I will be happy. When I find the love of my life then I will be happy. When I go on holiday then I will be happy.
So much time and energy is wasted wishing our lives away with when I buy this, when I do this or when I get this then I will be happy. We live in a state of doing rather than a state of being.
Happiness doesn’t come from outside of you – it’s comes from within. That's the secret of happiness. It actually isn't really a secret, many of the ancient sages, gurus and teachers through out time knew this but we live in a time where we have forgotten this ancient wisdom.
The search for happiness often brings us unhappiness. As author Michael Neil said "So much stresses and strains we experience in our life is brought on by our misguided attempt to make ourselves feel better by having, doing or achieving the right things".
We get pulled into the marketing and buy these wonderful products, we get the job we wanted or meet the love of our lives and yet and perhaps we may feel happy for a while. If you survive on these external events, situations or possessions to make you happy they may work but eventually they will lose their spark and a sense of longing for happiness will most likely return.
When you being to realise that happiness and well being is not a goal to work towards or attain and shift your focus from the external world to your inner world and begin to live from the inside out you will notice that happiness flows from inside out – and it’s wonderful!
During my travelling and backpacking adventures in my twenties - through Africa, Indonesia, Thailand, India and Egypt I met some wonderful people and many of them touched my heart and inspired me. They were wealthy - not material wealthy as we recognise in the western world but emotionally wealthy. They were happy with a wonderful deep inner happiness that shone through, and they were generous with their smiles, laughter and kindness.
What a lesson they gave me and I didn't realise it at the time . You do need to wait until you have X or achieved Y or done Z to be happy. Happiness is there within you just let go of who you think you should be and embrace who you are. When you truly recognised that and live it how you experience your life is profoundly change.
Linda is a Hypnotherapist in London and Somerset helping people to become the best they can possibly be. The work is a mixture of fun, deep inner work, movement, NLP, coaching, and hypnosis. She believes that change comes through not only through the unconscious mind but also through the body, so it's a mixture of sitting down, standing up and movement. It's different, it's unique and it's very effective! Click here for information on how to work with Linda