Questions that we ask ourselves are powerful tools. They can provide a pathway towards growth, hope and insights. They also have the power to keep us stuck and destroy the possibility of change.
The key is asking the right high grade questions with an open mind, heart and body. Enter a space of curiosity and courage and allow the questions to be your guide.
The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. Albert Einstein
The mind loves to recycle thoughts.
* I'm not good enough.
* I'm not worthy.
* I'm stupid.
* Why can't I get this right?
* I'm a failure.
Perhaps you have other recycled thoughts which are on constant repeat.
Begin to see these thoughts are coming from the judgement mindset or the inner-critic mindset.
Pay attention to how your body responds to them.
Let me give you an example of the thinking patterns of a man who ejaculates to soon is often:
* Will my partner leave me?
* Will I last longer this time?
* I can't control it
* I feel too anxious
* I am going to fail
* I am not a man
* I can't please my partner
* What does she think of me?
These questions/statements keeps the man stuck in the cycle of anxiety, stressed thoughts and loss of ejaculation control. It also blocks him from moving forward so he can last longer in bed.
Learning how to coach yourself by asking powerful questions
The way to change these questions and statements is start a line of inquiry with yourself.
What assumptions am I making? Is this true? What do I need right now?
Consider these questions as coming from a inquiring mind, or as some like to call it the learning/growth mind-set. Notice the difference on how they feel in your body when you ask them in your mind.
When you ask powerful and high grade questions from the inquiring mind it guides you forward into new possibilities rather than focusing on the past.
You then become your own self-coaches. It also opens up a whole new world full of possibilities, success, happiness and change.
That's the power of the questions we ask ourselves!
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