In today's society we are taught that emotions, feelings and thoughts are either negative or positive. But have you ever thought that feelings, emotions and thoughts are simply neutral and impartial - it's our attachment, perception and how we respond to them that gives them their power and significance.
Stress is created when we have a heavy workload, personal responsibilities, too much on our minds, other people placing unrealistic damands on us, or we feel out of control. Not exercising, or having enough to do can at work, or in your personal life can also create stress.
Each person stress tolerance varies, what one person tolerates can be highly stressful for another. What you feel is determined not just events and experiences in your outside external world but how you preceive and respond to them.
At times you may not have the ability to change your circumstances, but you do have the capability of changing how you respond to these events and situations. You can reduce the impact of stress by becoming more conscious, aware, and understanding of what causes you stress, learning how to handle stress and implementing relaxation exercises into your life
Remember that a little stress is actually healthy for us and good for the body and mind, it helps us to get out of bed and be organised. Healthy stress needs to be short term and then followed with some relaxation or rest.
The first step towards stress management
You can do all the relaxation exercises in the world but if you also don't change your inner world the exericses will purley be fire fighting the stress.
The first step is towards acceptance of your situation, acceptance of how you feel and acceptance of your thoughts. Once you stop purging our energy into ignoring or fighting thoughts, feelings and situations just imagine how much energy you will have to focus on developing your skills, inner recourses, and awareness.
Linda Connors is a Stress Management Hypnotherapist and Counsellor specialising in helping people access and develop their inner resources and skills to help reduce the impact of stress in their lives. Appointments are available in London in Harley Street and Hampstead and via skype. To speak to Linda call +44 (0) 753 421 3557.