Is sexual anxiety killing your sex life?

When sexual anxiety kills your sex life

Worrying about your performance in the bedroom can kill your sex life. With self doubt, fears, worried about ejaculating too soon or concerns about erections creep into the bedroom it can have a negative impact upon your sex life.

Just imagine this. You are getting romantic and intimate with your partner. Your heart starts to race from panic. The panic leads to anxious thoughts. What if I can’t perform, ejaculate too soon, or get can’t an erection or maintain it? 

This cycle of sexual performance cycle causes you to disconnect from your partner and as a result focus on your thoughts and what is happening with your penis. 

Mind and Body Connection and Sex

The mind and body connection is an important part of sex. If you don’t know how to use it to your benefit it will let you down again and again.  Imagine there is a line that runs from your mind to your penis.  The anxious thoughts sends a direct message to your penis. Your penis responds to these thoughts and panic by ejaculation too soon or losing your erection.

Keeping sex alive

When you are too focussed on your performance it’s hard to keep sex alive. Understanding how your mind and body works is the key ingredient. When you learn this you are able to change the sexual cycle and create new behaviour patterns.

6 Tips to keep sex alive

  1. Focus on what you want (fun, enjoyable sex) rather than what you don’t want (early ejaculation, anxiety or erection issues.)
  2. Stop focusing on your own sexual performance and remember to reconnect to your partner.
  3. Don’t let performance worries be the elephant in the room so talk to your partner openly and honestly.  This can be a real challenge for some men because of embarrassment and fears. Tap into your courage, take a deep breath and take the first step towards sharing with your partner.
  4. Learning to relax the mind, body and penis is a key step. Take a few deep and gentle breathes. Relax the body and shift your awareness to your partner. Remember most men at some point experiences sexual challenges in the bedroom.
  5. Look after yourself. Reduce stress levels. Drink less. Eat healthy.
  6. Create a strong and healthy relationship between your mind and body connection. Meditation or yoga can help.
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