When sexual performance anxiety kills your sex life

Anxiety your sexual performance in the bedroom can kill your sex life.

When self-doubt, fears, or worrying about your performance creep into the bedroom it can have a negative impact upon your sex life.

Just imagine this. 

You are becoming intimate with your partner. Then you start to overthink things. Your heart rate increases.  You begin to enter the fight or flight stage of fear. This leads to anxious thoughts. What if I can’t perform?  Will I ejaculate too quickly? Can I get an erection?  

This cycle of sexual performance cycle has a huge impact on sex. It also causes you to disconnect from your partner because you are too anxious bout your performance. 

Mind and Body Connection and Sex

The mind and body connection is an important part of sex. 

Imagine there is a direct line of communication that runs from your mind down to your penis. 

Any anxious thoughts you may have are in a way transmitted into the penis. Your penis responds to this communication by doing the opposite of what you want. This happens because the communication between the mind and penis has been established an created the physical response of either premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction.

6 Tips (you can implement now) to keep your sex life alive

If sexual performance anxiety is killing your sex life here are  6 tips you can implement now.  

You have got this! You can do it! 

Put an action plan together and start working towards it. Remember to also have fun! 

  1. Focus on what you want (fun, enjoyable sex) rather than what you don’t want (early ejaculation, anxiety, or erection issues.)
  2. Stop focusing on your sexual performance. Remember to reconnect with your partner. When you focus on something outside of yourself this helps reduce anxiety
  3. Don’t let performance anxieties be the elephant in the room. Talk to your partner openly and honestly about how you are feeling. Tap into your courage, take a deep breath, and take the first step towards sharing with your partner.
  4. Learning to relax the mind, body, and penis is a key step. Take a few deep and gentle breaths. Relax the body and shift your awareness to your partner. Remember most men at some point experience sexual challenges in the bedroom.
  5. Look after yourself. Reduce stress levels. Drink less. Eat healthily.
  6. Create a strong and healthy relationship between your mind and body connection. Meditation or yoga can help.
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