Our society is fast moving ahead with technology. Robots are becoming more and more advanced and human like and may soon be replacing many roles within the next 25 years. I read an article during the week about the possibility of robots being used for sex and companionship by 2050 - that's less than 34 years away.
As a hypnotherapist and coach one of the areas I specialise in is intimacy and love with ourselves and others, connection and sexual dysfunctions. All of these aspects impact how we show up in the world - from living a life of passion, drive and focus. To be confident and comfortable in our skin. So after reading this article my mind went into over drive with questions.
Is having sex with a robot ethical? Will robotic sex become the new addiction replacing internet porn addiction? How will this impact relationships, sex lives and our society?
Intimacy is what makes us human. It's the key to opening our hearts and helps us to bond and connect with others. We are beginning to lose the art of intimacy. In our modern day world we have the world of connection at our finger tips and we are in danger of replacing friendships, intimacy and connection by social media. Sex is more than a physical act or sexual release it's a journey to really get to know ourselves and others on a deeper level. It's what brings two people together in a way no other way can. If robotic sex becomes acceptable in our society and we begin to lose this level of intimacy we will also begin to lose a level of our humanity and sense of self. For intimacy allows us to build a bridge from one individual to another.
Sex without intimacy is like dancing without music
From intimacy we move into the power of relationships. Within our human hearts we seek connection, love and relationships. Relationships offers us a place to be a home within ourselves and another. To grow and develop together. Two individuals unite as a team. To learn how to be vulnerable with each other. Internet porn addiction is already deeply impacting relationships. To what level will robotic sex impact intimate relationships, how we connect with others and show up in the world? The gift of intimate relationships is that it truly awakens something inside us for to be in a relationships with others we must also be in a relationship with ourselves. What will society lose if robotic sex becomes the norm? Perhaps the ability to form healthy and loving relationships and this will impact so many different areas of our society.
Can we - should we - have sex with robots? It's so important to begin to have real conversations, discussions and debates about this now as there are already robotic sex toys on the market in America and Japan. Just as porn has changed individuals (particularly men) expectations of sex, sexually objectifying women, pleasure, arousal and relationships sex with robots can create further damage. Many young women are pressured into sex and believing that they need to act and look like porn stars - will this then extend that they will also need to perform like a robot? The impact of android sex is that a robot can't say no - so sex is on hand any time the person wishes - and this could lead to sex addiction and further issues of sexual objectification.
As a human being and a therapist and coach I am deeply concern for our next generation. Now is the time to educate them not just about the dangers of porn addiction but also the importance of healthy relationships, of love, of intimacy, of healthy boundaries and a loving connected sexual relationship. To prepare them for the future of the next stage of our humanity.