In this article I want to share a very personal story about how chronic blushing influenced my life, held me back in my 20s and 30s and how I stopped blushing.
I share my story to show others who suffer from chronic blushing that it is possible to stop blushing and reclaim your life. When you stop trying to hide or runaway from situations, when you are no longer afraid to be the centre of attention or to be asked a question in a meeting. When you can talk to others without the fear of blushing crushing you down.
My Chronic Blushing story
From my early twenties until my mid thirties blushing ruled my life. Blushing felt liked chains that restricted my life, movement, communication and happiness. It influenced the choices I made, the jobs I accepted, how I communicated and the social events I attended.
Underneath the physical aspect of blushing I suffered from low anxiety, insecurities, fears, anxieties and a feeling of not being good enough. On a deeper level it was a sense of shame of who I was as a person - which all manifested into blushing. I hid my light from myself and the world. I feared being judged or being criticised.
Blushing became a narrow lens in which I viewed the world and it restricted my life and how I was as a person. Important life decisions and choices were made based upon whether I would blush or not. I played small in this game of life and made small decisions. It felt so incredibly frustrating because I knew I had more to give to the world and had the ability to create the life I wanted - yet the blushing was weighing me down.
How I stopped blushing
The more I avoided, created my own inner drama, listened to the anxious thoughts and tried to push away the fear the blushing became more intense. I was tired of fighting the blushing so I decided to simply accept the blushing.
I worked on changing my mindset, how I responded to my thoughts and belief system. I learned to love myself and felt more confident within my own body and around other people. I started taking risks and started showing up more. My communicated improved as I broke the physical and emotional blushing behaviour pattern and created a new response of love, strength, calmness and confidence.
I started living again
Once I learnt how to stop letting the fear of blushing control my life and created acceptance the blushing naturally reduced until it stopped completely.
As the chains of blushing released my life transformed. I stopped holding myself back. I stopped hiding. I stepped forward with confidence, self love, freedom, and a deep sense of self-worth.
I began to live again. I became aware of many opportunities and possibilities and made decisions out of love rather than fear. Ten years ago I left my job, studied and retrained as a hypnotherapist and coach. Since that time I performed comedy sketches on stage, done public talks and presentations, and when I am attending courses and workshops I speak freely without any fear of blushing.
My experience can help you to stop blushing
When clients tell me about their experiences I get it. I know what's it like to fear the fear of blushing. I know what's like to want the ground to open up and shallow me when my face is burning red in embarrassment. I know what's it like to restrict my life so I keep "safe" and don't blush.
It's through my own experiences of blushing that I created the powerful Stop Blushing Hypnotherapy Programme for executives - as many therapies, coaching and hypnosis simply focus on the mind. I work with the mind, body and heart - all of you.
I am fiercely committed to helping others to break the chains of blushing and live life to the full.
“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" Mary Oliver
This beautiful line from Mary Oliver's poem This Summer's Day reminds me that this is the one life that we have. Each day that we breathe and live upon this earth is precious - much more precious than blushing. We all have a choice on how we spend each day - what is your choice?
About Linda Connors
London Hypnotherapist and Coach Linda Connors works with stressed out executives and professionals who want a better life, more happiness and freedom in their life. Since 2007 she has helped many professionals to stop blushing and start living.
You are invited to contact Linda and book your stop blushing session in London Harley Street or on Skype. Call 075 3421 3557