I have just come across an article in the papers regarding a self-confessed pick up artist called Julien Blanc who recently had to leave Australia as the government and police revoked his visa while he was conducting his workshop – for picking up women.
There is a current campaign in the UK to revoke his visa as he is due here in early next year or so to run “boot camp” for men and how to pick women up.
I was curious to what the fuss was about so investigated on line. Let me tell you I was sickened at his videos and what he preaches.
His tactics are manipulative, sexually abusive and racist. He talks about rape, he grabs women off the street and chokes them, and grabs their head towards his crotch. One his website he states “it’s offensive, it’s inappropriate, it’s emotionally scarring BUT IT’S DAMM EFFECTIVE.
Part of me felt sickened, angry and disgusted that this man was travelling the world giving dating advice to men making this abusive behaviour acceptable. The other part felt sad. Sad that some men think that is what they need to do meet women.
I wonder what upbringing or previous experiences Julien Blanc had to create this sexually abusive bootcamp. What his values, self-beliefs, and confidence is like. He state that his is now confident to talk to women – but I doubt that as if he was really confident he wouldn’t need to harm women in this way. Confidence is the result of self-beliefs, inner resources and skills aligning together to create a state of confidence. Real confidence does not come from manipulating people to do what you want them to do, to be violent or sexually abusive towards them.
There is a growing world-wide commendation for Julien and his tactics and I hope this gives him an opportunity to re-evaluate what he is doing, how he is doing it and truly change for the better.
A message to men who have booked to go onto his workshops. Real men do not manipulate women in this way, are not violent or sexually aggressive towards them. There are more life-enhancing ways to improve your confidence, to meet women, enjoy sex and a strong and loving relationship.
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A message to Julien, I hope the shockwaves from men and women alike to what you are doing is an opportunity to stop and look at what you are creating and from this place create change. Imagine how it would be to empower yourself and men from the inside.