When I was doing my counselling and psychotherapy training a couple of years ago we talked a lot about insights, reflections and awareness. After two years of insights, reflections and awareness I decided this was not really how I wanted to work. Focusing on what was wrong with people, rather than what was right was not for me. I truly believe the counselling and psychotherapy world was missing a fundamental and essential part of the process. Courage and Action. So I decided to focussed on my hypnotherapy practice and naturally moved into coaching.
It's so easy to get caught up in insights and awareness when entering therapy. People think they become more knowledgeable by understanding their past and themselves on a greater level. Which of course is fantastic but this is where many get stuck.
They think they have found the gold. The root cause of why they do the things that they do and expect that the issues to magically disappear - after all this was what Freud believed.
They do not do anything with their new found insights and awareness. It becomes an excuse. "I'm avoidant attached because of mother " or "I have anger issues because that's how my family communicated when I was growing up". That's it. They are not taught how to connect with courage and take action to change their life.
Do not get me wrong. Insights are valuable to creating changing but it's only the first step. From insights, comes courage and then action to create changes.
Courage to speak and present in front of a large audience
Courage to overcome shyness and start engaging socially
Courage to take risks and let someone into your heart
Courage to transform anger into mindful communication
Courage to show up, be seen and heard.
And action to create these changes.
I know the importance of courage and action because I walk my talk.
I was once socially shy so found the courage to go out and take action to meet new people.
I had a fear of public speaking so found the courage to take action to overcome it - I have performed to 250 people!
I had a fear of intimacy so found the courage to let someone into my heart and took action to create a loving and happy relationship.
What about you?
What courage do you need in your life? What support do you need to create action in your life?
As a London hypnotherapist and Life Coach I can help. For more information please call 075 3421 3557 and transform insight into courage, and courage into action.