Articles and writing with Linda Connors
It's Autumn here in Somerset. The leaves are transforming into magnificent browns and deep reds and are slowly surrendering as we near winter as they float down back to the land. This time of year is a magical time as not only is the landscape of the earth transforming it's a reminder we must also attend to our inner landscape.
Perhaps there is an area in your life that needs your awareness, understanding and attention. Dysfunction relationship patterns, sexual problems, addictions, emotional state or mindset holding you back?
Creating deep change involves a journey into your inner world of how you think, experience emotions, your belief systems, updating the templates set up in your earlier years and stepping into a new growth mindset. Below I share my thoughts and experience of creating change in my life and the life of those who work with me.
HOW TO CREATE CHANGE IN YOUR LIFE
To create the change you want, you must transcend the rational mind system. I see so many coaching and therapeutic approaches just focus on the mind. However that is just one element of who you are. They teach people to detach from emotions and feelings and see you as a mechanical thinking machine. This approach may create some form of change but it is only superficial as it doesn't go deep enough.
To create deep core changes, you must work with the whole of you - for each part of you experiences the world in different ways. Although it's important to remember the mind does influence the body and this influence directly impacts emotions and feelings. There has been neurological scientific research into how the mind, belief systems and culture directly affects the immune system, emotions and responses in the body. Based on this research, it's essential for your emotional well-being to work with the mind, body and heart together to create profound core changes in your life.
LEARNING TO LIVE FROM WITHIN YOUR INNER WORLD
As humans we have been gifted with the ability to feel deeply, to process the outer world through our inner world - and that allows us to be unique as we all have our own personal experiences which differ than each other. What changes means for one person will be completely different to another.
To create changes we must learn to start living from the inside which means as humans we must stop getting our validation, confidence and self-worth from outer experiences and from other people. We must learn to live from our inner world and connect with our confidence, worthiness and acceptance from within and allow that to flow out. This confidence and worthiness isn't connected to the job you hold, how successful you are of if your partner treats you well today. It's innate and once you learn this your life will change.
LOVE, KINDNESS AND COMPASSION
To create change, we must dive deep into the inner world and create change from a place of connection and embodying love. How much do you love yourself? How do you experience love? How do you know you are loved? How kind and compassionate are you to yourself and others?
Do you open your heart to love or do you close your heart to yourself and others with fear, judgement and blame?
You must learn how to transcend fear and judgement and live from a place of love. Learning to love yourself unconditionally is one of life's greatest journey but it's a journey worth taking. As once you love yourself other areas of your life begin to change naturally.
CREATING CHANGE IN AN ONGOING JOURNEY
There is no such thing as a quick fix, and then you can return back to your life all sorted. As human beings you are much more complex than that. Creating change is often the easy bit - it's sustaining the change that needs your dedication, understanding and inner support. As your role changes in life - wife or husband, work promotions, becoming a parent, menopause and so on you must continue to live from a place of kindness, compassion, love, awareness and understanding. As humans we are not perfection, and we were not made to be - so there may be times when you drop back to your old ways of being and this is when it's essential to have the awareness of what is happening and realise you have the ability to respond with love, kindness and compassion.
IF YOU ARE READY TO CREATE CHANGE IN YOUR LIFE THOUGH HYPNOTHERAPY AND DEEP CHANGE COACHING CONTACT LINDA ON 075 3421 3557.