How do you love your vagina? What is your relationship with your vagina? How do you love your vagina? How often do you think of her? How would you describe your relationship with this most intimate and sacred part of you?
Is she filled with shame? Do you disconnect from her? Avoid her? Do you close the door to the room of pleasure and desire?
Each vagina is unique and beautiful with their own characteristics, colour, shape and size.
I work with many women with orgasm issues or vaginismus who disown their vagina, think that it's ugly, disgusting, and close themselves off to this natural part of them. They attach stories to them "it's a funny shape" "It's ugly" "It's not normal".
When you disconnect from your vagina you are also disconnecting from a sacred and wild part of you. Wild not as in "crazy" but wild as so ancient and powerful as the strongest mountains.
How do you cultivate a loving and sacred relationship with your vagina? It's a journey of the mind, body, heart and spirit. For when you connect to this most beautiful part of you also connect with the wild goddess within.
Step 1 - Acceptance
The first step to cultivating a loving relationship with your vagina is acceptance. Accept how you feel about her. Write a list of 10 words to describe how you feel about your vagina. Then pause. Just breathe. Perhaps ugly or disgusting may be on your list. Sit in a non-judgement place of acceptance.
Step 2 - Write a letter to your vagina
Get out a pen and journal or notebook. Write free hand and let the words flow. Do not hold back. Be truthful here. What are you honest thoughts here? How do you truly feel about your vagina? What do you want her to know
Note: use hand writing with pen and paper rather than typing on screen as it is more engaging with your mind, body and heart.
Step 3 - Write a letter from your vagina to you
This time write a letter from your vagina to you. What does your vagina want you to know today? How does she feel being in the dark and shadows? How does she feel about being hidden for so long and disconnected from you? How does she want to express herself?
Again use handwriting rather than typing on screen.
Step 4 - Breathe into your vagina
Our breath is the most ancient and knowing part of us. Meditate and breathe into your vagina. Gentle breaths and nothing rushed.
Breathe in to your vagina - all the way through your heart, stomach until the breath meets your vagina.
Pause. Allow your breath to meet your vagina.
Release the breath.
Repeat as required.
Beware of the physical sensation of your breath meeting this ancient and sacred part of you.
Step 5 - A living question
A living questions is something that we give life and breath to. It's a form of meditation.
For five days, ask yourself what does my vagina want me to know today.
Example: one thing my vagina wants to know today is...…
When you start to love your vagina your life naturally changes. You open your heart, body and mind in a new and exciting ways. Your wild heart starts to have more presence upon this ancient landscape.
Have fun with these steps and be creative. As you learn how to love your vagina you also learn how to love yourself more deeply and wildly.
Premature ejaculation anxiety often causes the one thing men dread – early ejaculation. When you are feeling anxious about ejaculation too quickly your body naturally enters into two modes – fight or flight.
Flight anxiety – men want to get out of the bedroom they want to flee the situation. The anxiety becomes all consuming and when this happens certain functions in the body stop working – on a sex level ejaculation control.
Fight anxiety – when men experience fight anxiety – they want to stay and fight with the anxiety. They focus all their energy on trying to “control” the anxiety, trying to “control” their thoughts. This of course results in early ejaculation because the body’s focus is fighting the anxiety once again certain functions in the body stop working – ejaculation control.
So how do you break this cycle of premature ejaculation and the flight and fight response? Here I share 5 steps you can take now to break this cycle.
Step 1 – Slow your breathing
This may seem obvious but in the heat of the moment you most likely forget. When you feel anxious, this increases your breathing, which increases your heart rate when then sends a message to your brain that something is happening – which causes even more anxiety and adrenalin because your body starts to prepare to fight or flight.
Practice now – slowing breathing in. Pause. Slowly breathing out. Pause. Do this a few few more times. Even practice it as you go about your day.
Step 2 – Fixed mindset
Your fixed mindset (e.g. the belief that you can’t change, the belief that premature ejaculation will always happen etc) keeps you stuck in this unwanted place. What you think you become. Begin to practice stepping into the growth mindset. The growth mindset learns from failure. It sees it as an opportunity to learn, to grow and to create change by taking growth mindset action.
Step 3 – you are not your thoughts
What are your thoughts telling you? That you will ejaculate too soon? It will happen again? You can’t please your partner? Here’s the thing – even though it may feel like it – your thoughts are not real. They are not a part of you. They are not a part of who you are as a man. The third step is to accept your thoughts. For when you accept them they gradually lose their power over you.
Step 4 – check your focus
Men who experience premature ejaculation anxiety often focus on their penis and groin area. I call this the hyper-focus. Because the hyper focus is so intense all the energy is place in one area of your body which increases hyper sensitivity and high arousal. Bring your focus to the whole of your body – not just your penis. To practice this as you go about your day bring your awareness to your feet. Feel grounded.
Step 5 – stop trying to please your partner
Men often feel anxious and a failure if they can’t sexually please their partner. They try too hard, the anxiety increases and it’s happened again. This causes you to be disconnected and not present – and I am sure you partner most likely picks up on this. Focus on connecting with your partner and being present with her.
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When you experience an issue in your sex life do you just accept it as it is? Think that it will be permanent issue and will not improve? Perhaps you limit your life by restricting the possibilities for sex, relationships or dating because you fear you will ejaculate too soon, lose your erection or just be too sexually anxious about your performance.
If so perhaps the fixed mindset is in the driving seat in your sex life. As a result it dominates your life and restricts your chances of sexual success, enjoyment and pleasure. Fixed mindset doesn't seek improvement, or resultions - it is remained stuck and leaves you in the cycle of your sexual issues.
On the opposite end is the growth mindset. Growth mindset is the ability to activity seek out resolution, be willing to face the issue, be ready to take risks, and be willing to grow from the issue.
Your sexual experience and performances are not fixed or set. With the right mindset you can grow from this experience and transform the sexual dysfunction, fears and anxieties for growth and sexual transformation. In fact, many of my clients has reported back to me that not only have their sexual issue been resolve - other areas of their life naturally transformed and change as well.
Men, mindset and sex
Men often become fixated on their sexual issues, become hyper focus on what is happening with their penis during sex and putting too much pressure on themselves to please their partner.
The result - the pressure, the fear, anxieties and fixed mindset causes them to ejaculate too soon or lose their erection. They feel they are a failure and feel devastated. They become hypersensitive to what has gone wrong. Men remain focused on that point, become stuck and unable to move forward.
Does sound and feel familiar to you?
If so, you are not alone. This is how the fixed mindset operates - it keeps you restricted, stuck, anxious and limits your sexual success.
HOw to last longer in bed with a growth mindset
If you identify with the fixed mindset know that you are not doing anything wrong, it's simply a set of circumstances that lead you to this place. No person has a 100% growth mindset all the time. We are all human.
You may feel that you will always experience this sexual issue, especially if you have experienced it for many years. This is where a growth mindset can help.
A growth mindset creates a strong foundation to making changes. It can take practice to to work with your sexual issues from a growth mindset vocal point of view. So begin to bring in the word "yet into your inner dialogue and notice how that feels in your body.
Here's three steps to embodying the growth mindset - not just in your mind but also your body.
Step 1 - Developing Awareness
Step 2 - Changing your perspective
Step 3 - Take growth mindset action.
I will go further into these steps my next article so come back soon! But for now here is a tip you can start implementing into your life now:
A powerful tip to implement now
Your self talk/ inner dialogue has a huge impact not on your mindset but also your penis and body.
Perhaps you focus and tell yourself:
Notice when you say this to yourself it feels final. I can't control my erection/ejaculation feels final. This is the end and it will never improve. Your body and penis may even have a physical reaction to these statements.
Begins to introduce the word "yet" into your innner dialogue
The world yet opens up a world of possibilities. Repeat the statement which is linked to your sexual issues. Notice perhaps how your body, mind and penis respond tho this statement. It may be a subtle change.
Come back soon to read to the part two of this article on how to create change in your mindset so it influences the sexual response you want.
I wish you a wonderful day.
Porn addiction is the modern day drug which impacts children, teenagers and men of all ages. We need to see the bigger picture and consequences of porn on our culture, society and on men's psyche.
We now live in a time where children and men have a 24 hour supply and access to porn when they want it. We need to start asking ourselves what society and culture have we created where a man wants to have sex with himself while watching two, or more, random people having sex on his screen.
It's much more than releasing sexual energy or getting off. There is an inner world and landscape of underlying urges, drives, chemicals in the brain, behaviours, psychology, and mental patterns that motivate men to continue to watch porn and become addicted.
Porn takes away more than it gives
But, here's the thing.
You may think porn is giving you sexual pleasure and release - it actually takes away more than it gives. Porn and Porn Addiction is more damaging than you ever thought possible.
You may even try to justify your porn viewing to yourself by saying these statements (which I have heard many times from men):
"I watch porn like everyone else", "It's now part of our society" "Everyone else watches it, so what's the problem?" "My friend watches more than me"
These lies you tell yourself are there to help you ignore the reality of your situation. They are to encourage your behaviour around porn. You may think watching porn is normal. It's not. It has a direct impact upon your brain, chemicals and sexual function.
Internet porn is a multi-billion industry and is designed in a way so you to keep coming back for more and more. It is also responsible for a huge sex slave trade.
The hard cold fact is that porn takes away more than it gives.
Porn takes away your sense of self
Porn takes away your sense of self. It blocks you from showing up in the world as your true self. It blocks your creativity and lust for life as you waste hours upon hours watching two or more random people having sex - anything from vanilla porn to hardcore porn.
Porn disconnects you from your soul, your purpose, vision, and sense of masculinity. It creates issues in relationships, sexual function and intimacy. It blocks your connection to your body and heart.
When men lose meaning, passion and purpose in their life they truly suffer. The world does too.
The world doesn't need more men who are lost, hiding from life through porn, with no sense of purpose, direction and vision. The world needs more men who have the courage to say no to porn and to show up in their true essence, in their vulnerability, their strengths, and masculinity.
My question to you today - are you willing to take the first step today and reclaim your life from porn? To reconnect to your sense of self and soul? To live with courage, purpose and vision? To give permission to be the man you are deep down in your heart and body? If so, you must be willing to stop watching porn today. Not tomorrow, or next week. Change starts today. Be the man you want to be.
Linda Connors is a porn addiction hypnotherapist and has helped men quit porn and say yes to life with courage, purpose and vision. You can find more about Linda's programme here: The Porn Addiction Recovery Programme or to book your appointment today call 075 3421 3557.
In my private hypnotherapy and coaching practice one of the most common areas men come to see me for is sexual performance anxiety.
They worry about how long they will last, will they get an erection, ejaculate to soon or worried about pleasing their partner/making her orgasm. Whether it's in a new relationships or a long-standing one sexual anxiety limits the fun, enjoyment and pleasure of sex.
Sexual performance anxiety is often all consuming - impacting your mind, body and penis. It restricts and limits your sexual performance because your energy is focused on anxiety.
This article for both men and women alike. Men - know that you are not alone when you experience sexual anxiety. It may not be openly discussed, but it impacts many men and help is available to solve this. Women - it's so important you understand that men also have fears, anxiety and feel vulnerable with sex. Be supportive and give them the space they need to work through this without any pressure.
1. Sexual performance anxiety caused by sexual dysfunction
Working with hundreds of men over the years who experience delayed ejaculation, premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction, I have personally witnessed the impact sexual issues has on their lives, relationships, masculinity and even work performance. When a man is not able to perform due to sexual dysfunction it has a huge impact at the core of him, he feels deeply embarrassed, ashamed and even humiliated - this causes sexual performance anxiety which often dominates his thoughts constantly.
2. Anxious about pleasing your partner
A man's identity is closed linked to his sexual identity and if men worry they are not able to sexually please their partner this will often cause high levels of anxiety. As a result, men put more pressure on themselves to perform better, and this causes the cycle of sexual anxiety that they are not good enough or worry their partner may leave them.
3. Anxious mindset
It's so very hard to enjoy sex when your thoughts and mindset get in the way. "Is my partner enjoying this", "Am I going to lose my erection?", or "Will I ejaculate too soon?" Often men who experience sexual anxiety have what we call a fixed, critical or judgement mindset. They focus on failing before it has even happened. When you are preoccupied with failing and focussed too much on your thoughts it is so very difficult to enjoy sex and be connected with your partner, and this causes inmore anxiety.
4. Penis size and shame
A man's penis is linked to his male identity and if he feels his penis isn't adequate to please his partner, or a new partner will laugh at his penis size this causes sexual anxiety. According to a 2008 study in the Journal of Health Psychology men's anxiety about penis size are top of their list alongside weight and height. The anxiety and shame about penis size can impact a man in many areas of his life - many will not even start a new relationship, worry they are not able to please their partners sexually, causes performance anxiety and how he sees himself as a man and impacts his confidence levels.
5. Men, sex and vulnerability
Sexual performance anxiety for men can be so isolating because he often will not discuss what he is feeling with his partner for fear of appearing weak or not a man. They are afraid to let their partner see this vulnerable side. Yet, the key to a deeper, intimate and more connected sex is in vulnerability.
6. Sex and a new partner
The first time a couple has sex together is often a very vulnerable experience for both of them. As they begin to open their hearts to each other it deepens and brings a new level of intimacy. However, for some men this can bring high levels of anxiety especially if they deeply care for their partner and see a possible long term relationship. They worry they will not please her or not able to perform. Even putting on a condom can be anxiety provoking.
How to truly overcome sexual performance anxiety
The path to overcoming sexual performance anxiety is also a personal journey of your strengths, what you need to develop, and where you need to grow.
Each man's journey and path is unique, some need more help with their mindset and thoughts, others about fears and anxiety, and for others it's about working through a sexual issues, or how they deal with their partner's lack of support.
If you need help to overcome sexual anxiety you are welcome to contact me and let's have a conversation and discuss how I can help you to say goodbye to performance anxiety and welcome into your mind, body and heart an opportunity for better sex and a calmer mind and body.
Men's sexual issues hit deep in a man's psyche, identity level of who they are as a man, their masculinity and sexual confidence.
Men can often feel so very alone, find it difficult to talk about and often ignore the sexual issue. They do not want to get caught up in the cycle of anxious thoughts, limiting beliefs, disempowered mindset or fears which then leads to a frustrated sexual performance. Yet they do not know who to move to pass this.
Here are my top 5 tips for overcoming sexual dysfunction so you can last longer in bed.
Step 1 - Stop focusing on what you don't want
It's very easy, on a conscious or subconscious level, to focus on what you don’t have yet or don’t want. Such as - I’m going to lose my erection. I’m not going to please my partner. I’m going to ejaculate too quickly.
This thinking style quickly escalates into thought loops – which is when the thoughts go round and round without an exit point or any form of resolution. A thought loop may go something like: "I feel like sex tonight. But I can’t because I will come too quickly. I don’t feel like a man. I won’t be able to sexually please my partner. I am going to fail. My partner will leave me".
ACTION: When you find yourself thinking of what you don’t want – simply shift your awareness, attention and focus to what you do want. My suggestion is to do this without any judgement or pressure on yourself – as this holds you back.
Albert Einstein said we can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them
Step 2 - Get outside of your comfort zone
If you always do what you always did you will always get what you always got! If you want a better sex life and last longer in bed it's important you step just outside of your comfort zone and by that I mean that you are willing to take risks, to initiate sex and stop allowing sex to be the elephant in the room.
Action: Stop allowing fear to dominate your sexual actions. Take small steps towards change and towards the edge of your comfort zone
Step 3 - Stop beating yourself up
Many of my clients tend to beat themselves up when they encounter sexual issues, and if things don't go the way they wanted or expected sexual. They align what happened with their identity as a man.
Perhaps you notice that you start judging yourself and then mentally and emotionally start to beat yourself up – you start to get annoyed, angry and frustration and then bump into more fears and insecurities - and this creates the anxiety cycle.
This cycle of beating yourself up, judging and sexual anxiety keeps you stuck.
Action: Begin to notice when you beat yourself up, when you get addicted to over thinking and are over analysing. When it happens ask yourself it is helpful to beat myself up? I wonder how it would make a difference if you were more forgiving and accepting of yourself?
Step 4 - Learn how to be more present and connected during sex
Perhaps you get so caught up in being a good lover, giving your partner an orgasm and being able to perform, focus on what your penis is doing and worrying about lasting longer in bed that you actually forget how to be present and connected during sex and with your partner.
Men often think the power of sex comes from their performance first. Of course this matters and makes a difference but it’s not the most important thing. The first important aspect is your presence.
Action: Being present is about being present with yourself – being connected to yourself, being whole. Practice bringing your awareness to the here and now. When your thoughts being to wander - bring your awareness to you in-breath and out-breath.
This video can help you to stop being so hyper-focussed on what is happening with your penis and allow yourself to be more connected and present during sex.
Step 5 - Trust your ability to create change
Don King said “Confidence comes not from knowing you know everything but from knowing you can handle what comes up.
Don’t worry if you are not where you want to be right at the moment in time – be confident in your potential. You were born with an amazing amount of skills, strengths and resources – learn to tap into them and use them.
Action: Stop focusing on what has happened in the past or what may happen in the future. Focus on the outcome you want and the solution. Think of all the situations you have improved - you did that because you have an amazing amount of skills, strengths and resources - learn how to utilise them to help you resolve your sexual issues.
Linda Connors is Europe's Leading Sex Hypnotherapist and Confidence Coach and works with executives to overcome male sexual issues.
Appointments for London hypnotherapy are in London Harley Street and also through Skype.
To work with Linda and discover how she can help you last longer in bed call 075 3421 3557.
Premature ejaculation for men has a detrimental impact on so many areas of their life and relationships. It truly can cause high level of sexual anxiety and sexual frustration for some men.
Yet many men experience many years of unsatisfactory sex hoping the issue will go away by itself. For many it won't.
Because premature ejaculation is caused by many factors, and these of course vary from men to men. From early conditioned, porn induced premature ejaculation, anxiety, mindset and thoughts.
In this short video I share the 4 pillars of success to last longer in bed.
1st Pillar of success: Created a powerful mindset, beliefs and thoughts.
2nd Pillar of success: Feel calmer (Reducing anxiety and fear)
3rd Pillar of success: Create sexual confidence
4th Pillar of success: Retrain your body, penis.
So many men struggle unnecessarily for years with premature ejaculation. Help is available so help you take control back to last longer in bed.
Linda is Europe's Leading Sex Hypnotherapist and helps men recover from sexual dysfunction (premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and sexual anxiety) so they can last longer in bed and enjoy better sex!
Appointments in London Harley Street, Bath and Skype.
Who are you really?
I know it's a big topic and for many they simply do not know how to answer.
Are you your fears, anxiety or dysfunctional behaviours?
Perhaps you try to hide from these by creating a mask or a persona - so you try to act more confident, happier or successful.
You invest your energy into something that isn't real or serving you and it's also hard to keep up!
When I stopped trying to be someone I wasn't, accepted and love the human part of me that experiences emotions, feelings and thoughts a whole new world opened up for me. And it can for you.
Men who try to be more masculine without embracing their vulnerabilities, emotions and feelings. Women who try to be more confident without tapping into their inner skills and resources. They do this because they fear others will "find out" about them.
There is another way to live your life - dare to you!
Linda Connors is a coach and hypnotherapist dedicated to help re-discover who they are, connect with their heart and experience more meaningful happiness, love and success.
I would love to hear from you - call 075 3421 3557 and let's talk about your life, your goals, dreams and what changes you are ready to commit to.
Whether it’s premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction or sexual anxiety here are the most common 4 mindset traps men fall into about sex and their performance. These mindset traps are designed to tripped you up even when you so deeply want to overcome the presenting sexual issue.
When you have sex and if you are embodying and thinking one or more of these mindsets you will simply default back into sexual anxiety, low sexual confidence and of course this will trigger either premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction – and as a result shorten your sexual experience.
Mindset trap 1 - "I can't perfom"
It's difficult to have belief in your natural sexual ability when you are triggered by the mindset of "I can't perform" - either I am going to ejaculation too so or I am going to lose my erection. The ego enjoys reminding of your situation - it's important that the ego doesn't become dominate otherwise you will keep falling into this mindset trap.
Create space for a new belief to shine through. Make it realistic and what you can focus on today such as - I am learning to control my physical reactions (ejaculation or erections).
When you have a 'solution thinking mindset' - and choose to focus 80% of your thoughts/words on solutions - you will not only be heading more speedily to long-term success, but you will immediately feel better in the moment. Karen Salmansohn
mINDSET TRAP 2 - "iT'S GOING TO HAPPEN AGAIN"
This mindset trap "It's going to happen again" loves to remind you what has happened in the past. In a way it brings the past into the now and also into your future.
One of the big challenges for men who experience sexual issues is to stop focusing on the past and bring their awareness, breath and loving focus on this present moment. This does require a change of thinking patterns, focus and practice!
Your mindset matters. It affects everything - from the business and investment decisions you make, to the way you raise your children, to your stress levels and overall well-being. Peter Diamandis
mINDSET TRAP 3 - "i CAN'T SEXUALLY PLEASE MY PARTNER"
This mindset trap of "i can't sexually please my partner" brings a deep fear and insecurity of not able to sexual please your partner which ultimately brings about more anxiety, stress and sexual dysfunction. You end up being disconnect from her and then focus to much on your thoughts and what is happening with your penis. Remember sex is part pleasure - and also about connection - it's a way for a couple to truly get to know the other.
When men get caught in this mindset trap they lose the real connection of sex, intimacy and connection. So sex become a game of your performance and trying to get your partner to orgasm. When caught up in this mindset sex becomes a game you will never win - because in most cases it leads you down the path of either ejaculation to soon or not getting/or maintaining your erection.
The way a man penetrates the world should be the same way he penetrates his woman: not merely for personal gain or pleasure, but to magnify love, openness, and depth. David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
mINDSET tRAP 4 - "i AM NOT A MAN"
This mindset trap – I am not a man is often an unconscious belief and many are not even aware they think of feel this. Many men think because they experience a sexual issue or sexual dysfunction they are not a man. They feel embarrassed about their lack of ability to last longer in bed and align this with their identity as a man. As a result this mindset trap unconsciously seeps into other areas of his life – how he shows up with other men, how he leads, how he deals with conflict and even when his friends are discussing sex.
Your sexual ability does not define your masculinity - however how you choose to grow, learn and develop from these experiences does.
The more comfortable men are with dealing with their own vulnerability and their own ideas of masculinity and feeling emasculated, the healthier they are. It's a healthy thing to deal with. Ben Schnetzer
Your sexual issue does not define you
Men often see align this sexual issues with their identity. It's a physical behaviour and it's not connected to who you truly are - although it can seem like that. I have worked with some men who put up with either ejaculation too soon, or not able to get an erection as they were so embarrassed or humiliated by it and couldn't face speaking to anyone about it. I hear many of my clients say - "Linda I wish I got help sooner", "I can't belief I let this continue for so long without sorting it out" and "I regret the last 20 years of my life but now I am ready to overcome this issue". Don't wait too long to sort it out because you are missing on not just on sex, but also life, fun and enjoyment.
If you are ready to speak to me today about how I can help please call 075 3421 3557 or click on the button below.
What does confidence mean to you? My guess is you are here reading this article because you want to be more confident in your career, in the bedroom, communicating or life in general.
As a confidence coach, one of the traps I see many people getting into is they want to be more confident but they actually spend little time on what confidence means to them.
When people think about confidence it’s often a thought of: “I want more confidence”, “I want confidence to speak up in meetings” “I want more sexually confidence” “I want to be a confident leader” and the want lists of “doing” continues. It's really important to remember that confidence isn’t a state of doing or wanting – it’s a way of being where your mind, body, heart and spirit come into true alignment with your real true self and how you want to live your life.
Being confident is about connecting to your true self and allowing this to be naturally expressed in your life. Yet many people get into the trap of forcing confidence, wait until they are prefect, or long for the day when confidence magically arrives and brings all their personal wrongs to right, and all goals into reality.
Many simple accept these confidence traps so they put off truly living because they do not feel confident enough to ask someone on a date, ask for a payrise, have sex, or speak up in a meeting. Life eventually passes by them and before they know it they are on their deathbed with deep heartfelt regrets and many lost dreams.
It doesn’t need to be this way!
Building my own confidence was a journey for me which spans back to childhood, teenage years, and growing into an adult. I held myself back, kept safe and played small. It's fair to say I was very unhappy. Building my own confidence was a journey of meeting myself, learning to love myself, how to respond to the inner critic, connecting with my inner mentor, and be in the grace of acceptance.
Building confidence was not about waiting for the day when I was perfect - it was learning to live in this moment from a place of confidence. Meeting any judgement, fears and the inner critic from a place of love, kindness and acceptance AND still taking risks, learning to show up fully and expressing my true self in the world.