Beauty is being in harmony with what you are.
Peter Nivio Zarlegna
There is so much going on in our world today, society and local communities. It's so easy to get caught up in the dramas and chaos of life around us. It's so easy to get caught up with other people's rhythm in life we forget to dance our own rhythm. How our partners, friends and family feel which of course will have a direct impact on how we feel emotionally and physically,
When we live our life in drama and chaos our bodies live in the stress response, using up energy feeling stressed and anxious and feeling tired.
What is harmony
Harmony is a place of balance between mind, body and spirit. For some people it can feel spiritual and for others it's a place of connection.
Here are some steps to help you find harmony in your life
Breathing gives life to our thoughts, if your breath is quick and fast paced - your thoughts will be too.
Be aware of your breathe, watch it and listen to it. When you are stressed or feeling anxious slow your breathing down,
Take time out
Remember to take time out just for you! Whether it is breathing, reading, meditating, going for a walk, having a massage, going for a drive, having a bath, or even a glass of wine every so often. Close the door to the world, to your commitments and responsibilities for 30 minutes, an hour or even longer if you can manage it and focus on you!
Use this time as down time to recharge your batteries and reconnect with the most important person in your life - YOU!
Have you ever tried to Just Be? To just sit in quietness or stillness. We are surrounded by gadgets, noise, mobile phones, facebook, who would you be without any of them, without their noise?
Just sit in the silence, embrace it, hold it and engage with it with stillness. Listen to what your heart is trying to communicate to you.
I hope some of the above tips will help guide you to a harmonious life. By connecting with your own harmony you can also connect with your own rhythm of life to allow your soul and spirit to dance to the music of life.
About Linda Connors
Linda is a therapist with over six years experience guiding people towards living a truly harmonious life. For more information please visit the London Hypnotherapy and Counselling website
In my last post I invited you to think about happiness and what does it mean to you.
The longing for happiness isn't something that is modern, and new for our time, there has been much wisdom, advice and thoughts about happiness which stems from 2000 years ago.
Here are some tips for happiness, some of them have passed down many generations human civilisations.
How you choose to live is guided by your perception of life - is your glass half empty - or half full? If it is half empty what lens are you looking through and what do you see? How you view yourself and the world around you a conscious habit and pattern.
Your inner reality reflects your outer reality
Your view forms your perception of your inner and outer world which determines how you live your life, begin to change your perception and you can begin to change your life.
Start by enjoying and finding happiness in small every day things - like a flower, sun set, a beautiful clear blue sky, or a sky filled with shape shifting clouds.
Focus on the present moment.
You only have this moment, this now. By focusing on the past can cause depression and focusing too much on the future can cause anxiety, so learn now to enjoy this present moment in time. By putting your energy into yesterday or tomorrow you may just miss what is in front of you - and it may be filled with happiness.
Mindfulness meditation is a great way to learn how to be in the moment.
Learning to accept and love yourself
If you don't accept and love yourself happiness will always be a goal beyond your reach. Be compassionate, kind and understanding to yourself. Follow your dreams - because you are worth it!
Focusing on what you have rather than what you don't have is a fantastic step to finding your bubbles of happiness. Be grateful for your inner quality and beautiy, what you have, the sunshine, the rain, the stars, your family, friends or partner.
Bubbles of happiness
Allow happiness to flow in and out of your life, don't get too attached to it, and it simply isn't possible to be happy in every second of the day. Be with all your feelings and emotions as without feeling sad you can't truly experience happiness.
Dance with your bubbles of happiness, laugh and smile and when it's time to leave, nod your head acknowledge that when the time is right the bubbles of happiness will be dancing by your side.
Linda Connors is a Harley Street Hypnotherapist and counsellor specialising in helping people to nuture their goals, and find happiness, meaning and empowerment in their lives.
If you wish to speak to Linda please call 075 3421 3557
I love the phrase bubble of happiness - because in a way this is what happiness is - floating happily along until we meet face to face, we dance with it and when the time is right, the bubble will continue on it's journey.
I remember a time when I searched for happiness, in racks of clothes in a department stores, being with unsuitable partners looking for love, in a wine glass, in a bar of chocolate, aiming for goals I didn't even want - to make others proud of me. I searched for happiness by always giving presents to people, always extra nice to others, smiles, with never a frown - always putting others first.
When I gave it wasn't truly from heart - it was on the condition that the person would like or love me, or the friendship would continue. But that wasn't me, I lost myself in the search for my own bubbles of happiness.
After a journey of healing and personal growth some years ago (and in some ways I am still on a path of personal growth) I discovered my beautiful inner self - and that everything I need is within me to be happy, to dance with happiness as it flows into my life, but not to get too attached to it and when it leaves I am okay with that too.
Now, when I give, the intention is from within my heart - without any expectations, rewards or judgements.
What does happiness mean to you? Do you long for it on a lonely night? Are you afraid it will not find you or are you always happy? Do you use material things and gadgets to search for your bubbles of happiness?
I will be back later to discuss more about happiness, but I offer you some space to take time out and really think about happiness and what it means to you, and who are you without happiness and with happiness?
What do you want?
A good job? A happy relationship? Lots of friends? Holidays? Nice clothes? Eating at nice restaurants? Drive a nice car? Be your own boss? Feeling more at peace within yourself? Connecting more to nature? Having a sense of who you are?
Is this what you want - or are you meeting others expectations for your own happiness?
Please do share your thoughts by adding them to the comments section below - I would love to hear them!
Linda Connors is a London Hypnotherapist and Counsellor helping people to discover their insights, awareness, inner resources and innate wisdom and use these as a guide to creating a fufilled, happy and truly amazing life.
Linda's private practice is located in Harley Street and Hampstead.
This is my story, my journey from pain towards transformation.
12 years ago, I was depressed, anxious, suffering from severe IBS and barely able to leave the house because of pain attacks. I was also grieving for my brother who died in a car crash some years earlier. To deal with my emotions I used alcohol and over spending as a blanket and wall to my emotions. It's fair to say I was in a dark place, I used all my energy pretending I was okay, projecting an image of a fun woman who liked to drink too much and wear nice clothes.
Then about seven or eight years ago I experienced a deeply traumatic event. The walls came up to shut out the pain- so nothing flowed out - but also nothing flowed in. By cutting myself off from my pain, I also cut myself off from who I was as well as feelings of joy and happiness.
I wanted to change, but didn't know how - it felt too scary for me, although I was in a difficult place, the thought of leaving my emotionless sanctuary felt too hard, too scary - it's better the devil you know as they say.
What was the catalyst for change? Too be honest I can't remember, but I do remember feeling that I have a choice, to continue down this path of self loathing, hatred, depression and anxiety or to transform my pain and experiences into something positive, healing and empowerment.
I did make a choice. I started to believe in myself, I paved my own path towards healing through love and personal development, workshops, retreats, meditation, hypnotherapy, counselling, and empowerment.
Today, my life continues to amaze me, I never thought I would be here - like this - and I love my life and I wouldn't change anything that has happened to me as it guided me towards self love, acceptance, and being the person I am today.
By opening the door to my pain, anger, anxiety and depression I gave myself permission to heal and embrace joy, love, self acceptance and happiness. I realised life is about being perfect, it's about embracing
When I reflect back to that time now I don't regret my past. It was all just an experience, which helped me shape not only the person I am today, but also forms the therapist I am today - with the ability to create a healing and positive relationship to help my clients florish and be empowered.
So here I am now - this is me, I am not perfect, I may not have all the answers - but I know what is like to feel despair, sad, anxious or depressed. I also know what's like to transform pain into healing, inspiration and empowerment. I will not hide behind a therapist blank screen. Though my experiences, training, insights and understanding I will show you that's okay to be who you truly are, to open the door to all of your emotions and feelings and embrace them as your inner guide towards inspiration, love and acceptance.
With over six years experiences I work with people, run workshops and talk about healing and self empowerment. By combining hypnotherapy, counselling, coaching and mindfulness, I will share with you all I have discovered to help you to connect with your own path of healing, inspiration and empowerment.
Appointments are available in in 1-7 Harley Street Hypnotherapy and Hampstead, or via skype.
You can contact me on +44 (0) 753 421 3557 - I look forward to hearing from you.