Articles and writing with Linda Connors
Sex is truly a beautiful part of life and relationships. When a couple comes together in a sexual way it deepens and enriches their relationship to a whole new level. As a Sex Hypnotherapist and Coach, I have worked with many women who are not able to orgasm through either self-pleasure, oral sex and intercourse.
Perhaps you are reading this article because you experience orgasm issues and may feel frustrated, ashamed, or angry at yourself. You love your partner, enjoy sex, are committed to the relationship and have a wonderful relationship together.The one thing holding you back is not being able to reach an orgasm.
Although it may feel like you are the only woman who is not able reach an orgasm it is actually quite common. Many women do find it difficult to climax and orgasm during sex, foreplay or during self-pleasure.
There may be many reasons why you may find it difficult to let go, and reach an orgasm and here's some reasons:
To be able to open your heart, mind and body during sex and share a beautiful moment when you orgasm with your partner can put some women in a very vulnerability position so you disconnects from your body on a physical, sexual and emotional.
You do not have the sexual confidence to let go fully on an emotional, physical and mental level with your partner to reach an orgasm. You may find it difficult to ask what you want sexually.
Trauma either in childhood or adult life can impacts the way a women feels about herself, trust in men, and the relationship with her body. She may experience a disconnect her body, feel anxious about becoming closer or being able to fully trust her partner.
Many people, especially women think sex is bad, wrong and dirty. These attitudes and beliefs are often formed in the early years either through family, schooling, religion or media. The enjoyment of sex is replaced by a feeling of guilt or being ashamed for enjoying sex.
Some women do not have a healthy relationship with their body and feel unattractive, overweight or unsexy. Perhaps you haven't explore your body by yourself so do not know what is a turns on. This may cause a disconnect from the body - so you focus on thoughts rather than your body, pleasures or partner.
Thinking how do I look, what does he think of me, are we moving good together, will I reach an orgasm this time or am I taking too long?
Lack of understanding
Some women actually do reach climax and orgasm however they simply do not know this due to lack of education growing up, or expectations from their partners or even what they see in the movies.
Repressing sexual feelings
Repression can be caused by many different reasons - such as childhood, trauma, self-beliefs or feeling sexually unconfident. The sexual repression naturally causes a disconnect from the body's pleasure and enjoyment of sex.
The Masculine and feminine
Sex and orgasms can be a complicated issue for some women. In this age of advancement and the busy-ness of life who we are as women is evolving and from this there is a at times a power struggle between the masculine and feminine part of our psyches. Women want to be independent and connecting with the masculine energy certainly allows women to reach their goals in life. However it's also important to connect with the feminine energy, to nurture and allow it to also flourish.
It just doesn't stop there. There are many array of reasons why a women can not reach orgasm such as focussing too much on trying to orgasm, problems in the relationship, medical reasons, lack of stimulation, bored of sex, partner doesn't stimulate her enough or emotional issues such as anxiety, depression, or stress.
If you are seeking help to experience orgasms either through self-pleasure or with your partner I can help. I provide orgasm hypnotherapy and coaching. During our work together I help you to resolve any underlying issues, create a healthy body relationship, and align your heart, body and spirit to reach your full sexual potential.
Please feel free to get in touch, you can contact me on 075 3421 3557. I am happy to answer any questions you may have.
Holidays were meant to be a break from the routine of daily life. But now thanks to modern technology we have the ability to be in constant contact with the outside world - work, family and friends. We can even share our holiday memories and photos instantly on Facebook and twitter - as they happen.
This does not give you a break, does not give your mind, body and spirit a chance to unwind, relax, recharge and take a break from life.
I have witness a growing trend of oversharing, from weekend happenings to holiday special moments.
Do you find that your data roaming bill sky rockets when you go on holiday? Or perhaps you come back feeling as though you haven't been away?
If yes read my tips on how to relax on holiday and have a wonderful time free from emails and social media.
Take a break from social media while are on holiday
Just imagine for a moment - that for your next holiday you take all your facebook friends or twitter followers. Imagine what that will be like, your friends, family, parents, next door neighbours, work colleagues and your boss. Feel the different energies. Just image what they will look and feel like.
If you use social media, like, reshare and updating facebook constantly with photos and status updates in essence you are on holiday with every single one of your facebook connection. Thinking about that hopefully gives you a new perspective.
You book your flights, hotels and travel arrangements and arrange time off from work. This is your special time with your family, partner or friends. Respect it.
Decide how long you will break from facebook and commit to it. Close your face down - it will still be there waiting for when you are ready to log back on.
Use a camera and not your smart phone.
Take a camera with you on holiday. By using a camera restricts your time on your smart phone and reduces any temptations to use your phone and Facebook.
Don't check emails
Turn your email function off or even disable it while you are on holiday. In this day of instant communication and social media we have lost our sense of priorities and what's important. Speak to your employer and let me them know you will not be checking any emails while you are on holiday
If (and that's a big IF!) you must check email while you are away restrict your use, schedule a time to check it and then switch it off.
Don't buy data roaming
This is pretty straight forward and simple. Do not buy data roaming while you are away. It's as simple as that.
Just imagine you are on your death bed, and reflecting upon your life. What will your regrets be?
That you didn't appreciate the time you had? You didn't make the most of your holidays with your family? You regret using your energy, time and focus on social media?
Do not let social media control you. Respect your time, and also respect the people you are sharing your time with.
Holidays are about having a break from life, relaxing and enjoying new experiences. If you are in constant contact via social media with your friends and family it diminishes the experience, the enjoyment and your precious time.
When you achieve that control your life will become much more enriched and your holiday will become a beautiful memory of a time you spent it with people that you loved.
Linda Connors is a hypnotherapist and coach working with internet addiction. If you wish to speak to Linda please feel free to get in touch on 075 3421 3557.
There is nothing quite like the smell of a freshly brewed cup of coffee or in my case a cappuccino! I rarely drink caffeine but every so often I treat myself to a cappuccino but always order it with just half a shot!
Especially if you experience anxiety issues I would highly recommend stop drinking coffee.
I invite you to stop drinking coffee and caffeine products. Your body will thank you for it.
As a Hypnotherapist in London I specialise in working with sexual issues. One of the areas I work a lot with is erectile dysfunction.
Erectile dysfunction can cause a lot of worry and anxiety in a man, from sexual anxiety, fearing and avoiding sex to worry about his partner not being sexually satisfied.
Here are some causes of erectile dysfunction:
If you are looking for help with erectile dysfunction I invite you to contact me.
I specialise in erectile dysfunction hypnotherapy and coaching and I have helped many men overcome erection issues to achieve strong solid erections, improve their sexual confidence and relationship.
For more information please call me on 075 3421 3557. I am happy to answer any questions you may have.
If you haven't already talked to your doctor about erectile dysfunction please do so in order to rule out any medical issue or condition.
As a London Confidence Hypnotherapist and Coach I have created a step-by-step programme to increase confidence. This is a truly unique programme it focusses on self beliefs, thoughts, body language, feelings and emotions.
Here's a guide to how I work:
Resolve underlying issues
Through hypnosis quickly understand and effectively resolve any underlying issues relating to low confidence. Such as previous incident, childhood issues, work related issues or self-beliefs. Learn how to change your perception of yourself.
Embody the changes
Through hypnosis, coaching and mindfulness you will how to feel, be and act more confidently in your mind, body and thoughts. Learn simple yet effective exercises to feel confident in your body which flows through body language.
Understand the power of thoughts and impact upon your body and learn how to manage thoughts. Let go of any fear, anxiety and low self-esteem and open the doors to confidence, strength and empowerment.
Increase and build confidence
Naturally build up your inner confidence with hypnosis and coaching to enable you to interact confidently with people socially or in work situation. Learn how to embrace your life with confidence, calmness and inner balance and strength.
What you can achieve
Working at this levels allows you to feel more self-assured, confident and happier in your life. You will think, feel and be and act more confident in many areas of your life.
Want to know more and how I can help?
Contact me on 075 3421 3557 to take your first step towards improving your confidence and gaining the courage to really live your life.
When I was doing my counselling and psychotherapy training a couple of years ago we talked a lot about insights, reflections and awareness. After two years of insights, reflections and awareness I decided this was not really how I wanted to work. Focusing on what was wrong with people, rather than what was right was not for me. I truly believe the counselling and psychotherapy world was missing a fundamental and essential part of the process. Courage and Action. So I decided to focussed on my hypnotherapy practice and naturally moved into coaching.
It's so easy to get caught up in insights and awareness when entering therapy. People think they become more knowledgeable by understanding their past and themselves on a greater level. Which of course is fantastic but this is where many get stuck.
They think they have found the gold. The root cause of why they do the things that they do and expect that the issues to magically disappear - after all this was what Freud believed.
They do not do anything with their new found insights and awareness. It becomes an excuse. "I'm avoidant attached because of mother " or "I have anger issues because that's how my family communicated when I was growing up". That's it. They are not taught how to connect with courage and take action to change their life.
Do not get me wrong. Insights are valuable to creating changing but it's only the first step. From insights, comes courage and then action to create changes.
Courage to speak and present in front of a large audience
Courage to overcome shyness and start engaging socially
Courage to take risks and let someone into your heart
Courage to transform anger into mindful communication
Courage to show up, be seen and heard.
And action to create these changes.
I know the importance of courage and action because I walk my talk.
I was once socially shy so found the courage to go out and take action to meet new people.
I had a fear of public speaking so found the courage to take action to overcome it - I have performed to 250 people!
I had a fear of intimacy so found the courage to let someone into my heart and took action to create a loving and happy relationship.
What about you?
What courage do you need in your life? What support do you need to create action in your life?
As a London hypnotherapist and Life Coach I can help. For more information please call 075 3421 3557 and transform insight into courage, and courage into action.
Never before has it been so important to have a digital detox. In our human history the internet, social media, smart phones and ipads are all relatively new but for some growing up in this age it's all they know.
I am grateful that I grew up in a time before social media and the internet. When we played outside in the sunshine or the rain. When we used our imagination and creativity to play and have fun. Now I think when I go outside where have the children gone? I live in a beautiful part of rural Somerset with plenty of opportunities for families to explore, be creative, have fun and be children. Now I see children being parented by Ipads and Netflix.
It breaks my heart to see families sitting around a table in a café all engaged but not with each other. They are looking down engaged and making eye contact with technology.
I am grateful that when I travelled it was a true adventure - back packing through India, Indonesia, Egypt and Africa with no contact with the outside world - that was truly a wonderful and exciting adventure. Now in this time of over sharing they constantly flood our feeds with selfies, travel photos, updates and check ins (and in the past I have been guilty of that).
Don't get me wrong I love seeing what others are doing and experiencing and in some ways I am experiencing their joy and excitement but it also feels slightly false. We show off our best bits but hide the rest.
A couple of months ago I had a digital fast or as some call a digital detox. For one month I closed my facebook account and stopped using twitter. I also turned emails off my phone, stopped using my phone as my alarm, turned off data roaming and WiFi.
The result was I felt free, more creative, and focussed. I had more time and I became much more productive.
I do not use social media that much but still I hadn't realised how much I had became a slave to it. How much it was engrained into my life. When using my laptop I automatically just logged on to facebook - it was such an unconscious act.
My family live in Australia and I have friends scattered across all ends of the world so I do appreciate how technology has evolved as I do love the ability for instant communication. But I am no longer a slave to it. I am in control and decide when and how I want to use it.
My next post will be some tips to get more control over your social media and internet use - before it controls you.
Are you ready for digital detox from social media and the internet? What are your thoughts do you use the internet too much and addicted to facebook and other social media apps? I would love to hear from you please add your comment and thoughts at the bottom of this article.
If you need help please call me on 075 3421 3557 and let's have a conversation on what you want to achieve and how I can help.
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