From the men I have worked with I have seen first hand how porn addiction is having a detrimental effect on men's lives - work is suffering, sex life becomes boring as they need more extreme ways to get turned on, relationships and intimacy are at a low and it can take longer to ejaculate with their sexual partner.
The differences between watching porn and having physical sex on your mind, body and heart are worlds apart. Porn addiction causes disconnection and real physical sex causes a deeper connection and intimacy between two people.
According to research just watching 5 hours of porn changes the brain and influences sexual beliefs and attitudes towards women. As porn becomes the norm many men do not even realise this impact and how many of their lives suffer.
Is there any place for porn in a relationship?
Absolutely! Porn (with boundaries) can be a fun way to introduce new games into a couple's sex life and bring a new dimension. It's about the intention and the connection between the two people and how porn can support them on their intimacy, passionate and fun journey together - as opposed to someone who is addicted to porn and becomes isolated and alone.
If you constantly watch porn alone it begins to build a large gap between yourself and those around them. It takes your energy, focus and sexual desire and manifests it in a way which isn't real, connected or from a place of intimacy.
About Linda Connors
Linda is a Porn Addiction Therapist in London Harley Street and Skype and helps professional men stop watching porn and reconnect to life, relationships and sex.
If you are needing help now get in touch by clicking here.
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Are you aware of the inner dialogue, thoughts and stories you carry around in your mind? Are you aware of how these limit your life and restrict you from being you?
Many of us tend to carry stories around with us on who we think we are; these stories may be made up of self-beliefs, experiences or relationships with others. They may be created from our younger years from siblings, parents and teachers.
In these stories we create a character in which our decisions, purpose, vision and mental and emotional state all represent. This character, which is really ourselves, also likes to create labels. I am unlovable, an addict, depressed, anxious hopeful or a failure. The list can go on and on, but I am sure you get the picture.
People act our their stories and labels. So the sexually anxious person stops performing in bed. The person who blushes constantly blushes. The person who fears intimacy blocks love and connection. The person who feels they are unlovable date people who will fulfil this self-fulfilling prophecy
The stories and labels you carry around do not define you. It may feel that these stories are part of who you are and your identity - but they are not.
You are not anxious - you are experiencing anxiety now.
You are not unlovable - you only think you are unlovable.
You are not a failure - you are learning and finding a new way forward.
All through my childhood and right up to my early thirties I carried many stories around in my head that I am not worthy, not lovable and I aligned my identity with anxiety and depression.
Every action, thought, movement and decision I made were from the story I carried around in my mind. I can't apply for that job as I won't be good enough. I can't go to my friend's birthday celebration as I will be too anxious. I can't go on a date as I am unlovable.
These stories and labels placed restrictions on my choices and limited my life. Just over ten years ago I decided to rewrite my stories, labels and thoughts. I broke free from the self-made chains of my mind, body and heart and that enabled me to move forward in a new way - with self-love, self-esteem, confidence and courage.
Whatever stories you are carrying around - from anxious, painful, or low self-esteem - remember they are not you. Notice how they hold you back and block your life.
Begin to see these stories for what they truly are - they can be a door opening to allow you to live a new way, giving you the courage to release the stories and write a new story which will set your free.
Are you ready?
Linda Connors is a London Hypnotherapist in Harley Street. She helps executives rewrite their mindset, thoughts and beliefs so they can be free to be themselves at work, in relationships and during sex.
Speak to Linda now on 075 3421 3557 or click here to send a confidential message
Linda is a London Hypnotherapist Harley Street. She helps