Articles and writing with Linda Connors
It can be such as shock when you discover your partner has been watching porn in secret. You may feel angry, alone, upset, and worried he may no longer find you attractive.
There are many complicated reasons why men watch porn, and often it is not just about sex.
In this video "what to do when you discover your partner is addicted to porn" are steps for you to take.
After the initial shock, anger and upset you may begin to see this an opportunity to work together to create the relationship and life you both want - free from the influence of porn.
How you can support your partner when they are addicted to porn
Loving someone who is addicted to porn is difficult. They have changed from the loving, caring and doting partner to someone who is detached, maybe suffering from porn induced sexual dysfunction, or disconnected from life.
No matter how much you love your partner it’s important to remember this is their own personal journey they must take. Be there to support them when needed – but it’s essential to know that you can’t make them stop watching porn. No matter how much you love them, how much they love you you must take a step back and allow them to take this journey themselves.
Of course, be there to support them. To talk to them. Set your own personal boundaries. But do not overly nurture them or try to control them.
Understand that porn addiction is a legitimate addiction. Scientific tests has shown the true extent of porn addiction on the brain, the chemical releases and sexual dysfunction.
The good news porn addiction and the behaviour patterns can be rectified if the person is ready, willing and able to stop watching porn. If they are not able to do this themselves professional help is available to support them on this journey.
Like any addiction from cocaine, gambling to drinking addictions the person must want help and want to change. It takes courage to change your life especially when resolving an addiction.
Linda works with men who want to end porn addiction. To stop watching porn call 075 3421 3557.
Appointments are available in London Harley Street or Skype.
The inner critic. We all have one - that voice from within that warns us, holds us back, tells us we are not good enough. The inner critic can also be the way fear, judgement or anxiety expresses itself through thoughts. The voice is usually negative, doom and gloom.
The problem with the inner critic is so much as what it says - it's the way many accept the inner critic as 100% fact and allow it to dominate their lives. For some this goes on for years and they only live half a life because they are not living up to their potential.
When we begin to understand that one of function of the inner critic is in a way to protect us from harm, embarrassment or things going wrong we can begin to build a new relationship with the inner critic.
In this video I share with you three ways to silence your inner critic so you can begin to step up and be who you truly are in your career, relationship and life.
About Linda Connors
Linda is a Coach and Hypnotherapist in London working with aspiring leaders, executives and business owners to tap into their potential so they can enjoy more meaningful love, success and happiness.
To book an appointment or enquire about Linda's hypnotherapy and coaching programmes call 075 3421 3557.