Six factors which cause sexual performance anxiety in men

In my private hypnotherapy and coaching practice one of the most common areas men come to see me for is sexual performance anxiety. They worry about how long they will last, will they get an erection, ejaculate to soon or worried about pleasing their partner/making her orgasm.  Whether it’s in a new relationships or a long-standing one sexual anxiety limits the fun, enjoyment and pleasure of…

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How to support your partner with vaginismus and painful sex

Sex is an essential part of adult life and relationships. When your partner suffers from vaginismus, or experiences painful sex, it is only natural that it may start to impact the relationship. Sex forms an important part in relationships and vaginismus can certainly strain any relationship. Men are often lost on how to deal with it and support their partner. Vaginismus is a vaginal tightness…

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Five steps to last longer in bed: men’s sexual Dysfunction

Men’s sexual issues hit deep in a man’s psyche, identity level of who they are as a man, their masculinity and sexual confidence. ​Men can often feel so very alone, find it difficult to talk about and often ignore the sexual issue. ​They do not want to get caught up in the cycle of anxious thoughts, limiting beliefs, dis-empowered mindset or fears which then leads…

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5 steps to reduce premature ejaculation anxiety

Anxiety about ejaculating too quickly often causes the one thing men dread – early ejaculation.  When you are feeling anxious about ejaculation too quickly your body naturally enters into two modes – fight or flight. Flight anxiety – men want to get out of the bedroom they want to flee the situation. The anxiety becomes all consuming and when this happens certain functions in the…

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Learn to Love your vagina in five steps

Let’s be honest here How do you love your vagina? What is your relationship with your vagina? How do you love your vagina?  How often do you think of her? How would you describe your relationship with this most intimate and sacred part of you? Is she filled with shame? Do you disconnect from her? Avoid her? Do you close the door to the room…

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Stop Ignoring These 7 Inspiring Truths (and Become Your Best Self Today)

People know who they have the potential to be. The challenge is seeing that process through. Self-development is an art. It takes time. It requires patience. It asks you to step outside your comfort zone. It is challenging — and that’s the point. However, the biggest challenge when it comes to self-development is the process itself. People really struggle with the path and all its twists and turns,…

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How to be 1% Better Every Day

“Compounding is the greatest mathematical discovery of all time.” — Albert Einstein The quest to become a better version of yourself often feels like a roller coaster ride. It’s hard. And it’s usually so uneven. You can end in failure. But life is a journey, not a marathon, so you always have another opportunity to restart and improve. Many people practically look out for secrets,…

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How To Become Ridiculously Self-Aware In 20 Minutes

Four years ago my sister got me something that would dramatically alter the direction of my life. In fact, it was probably the most influential gift I’ve ever received. It would help me find my true calling, become a writer at the Huffington Post, and go on a 5-month road trip across America by myself. You know what it was? One of these… A journal….

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What’s the Point of Self-Improvement Anyway?

There’s a paradox with self-improvement and it is this: the ultimate goal of all self-improvement is to reach the point where you no longer feel the need to improve yourself. Think about it: The whole goal of improving your productivity is to reach the point where you never have to think about how to be more productive. The whole point of pursuing happiness is to reach the point where…

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Self-love is the basis for self-improvement (for men and women)

There’s a quandary I hear people talk about a lot in the self-improvement world which goes something like this: “Should I keep trying to change, or should I just learn to love myself?” The people posing this question almost invariably feel terrible about themselves, and further, they assume that’s par for the course. It isn’t. In fact this whole “self-love vs self-improvement” thing is a…

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