Articles and writing with Linda Connors
The human psyche is a strange thing. Many long to change their life and move forward in careers, relationships, sex, and life. Yet change can feel so hard and fear and resistance often meet this longing. Regardless of how uncomfortable the present situation is to move towards a new beginning and chapter is quite frightening. This life brings a level of comfort for it is what you know and experience day in and day out. Anxiety, addictions, fears, intrusive thoughts, high level of emotions and dysfunctional relationships become a natural way to live your life.
To create shifts in your life you must leave the home of your comfort zone. You must get out of your own way and lean towards your edges and for some this is frightening. Many gifts are waiting for you there and this is the opportunity to develop and create the existence you deeply desire.
The gift of your edge
It's only when you leave the old way behind and step out onto the edge of your comfort zone you grow, develop and move towards the life you want to live. This is where you gain wisdom, knowledge and your talents, skills, gifts, creativity and way of life truly come alive. You give breath to all that you are. The unlived life becomes alive again. But life doesn't stop there. As you journey through life the edges will soon become your comfort zone and so you must continue stepping out on the edges.
There was a time when I built my life around my comfort zone. I had secure jobs, played safe and lived safely within the mental prison I created. It was uncomfortable but it was a life I knew well. When I decided to cross the threshold of the comfort zone and out onto my edge my life began to expand and I truly began to live. If I stayed in the house of my comfort zone I wouldn't have taken risks and left a secure job and became a hypnotherapist and coach ten years ago.
Every moment of one's existence one is growing into more or retreating into less. Norman Mailer
What are you sacrificing by playing small? How does your comfort zone dictate your life? What choices and decision do you make to keep within the walls of your comfort zone?
The comfort zone brings a level of delusion into your life. You think you are living within the walls of your comfort zone and safety, in fact, you are not living at all as you are only living a half life. The real life lives on the edge of the comfort zone and when you step out into your edge your life will change.
Living on the edge of your comfort zone
The first few steps towards your edge may be a little daunting. You may feel lost as you leave the old ways behind and step into a new way of living your life. This fear is natural. When my clients tell me I am ready to take this step but I am scared or don't know what to expect I am aware that they are moving beyond their comfort zones and what they know.
Whether you are being held back by sexual issues, addictions, anxiety, stress, blushing, dysfunctional relationships or an unlived dream it's essential to know that you can not create the changes you seek within the restrictions and safety net of your comfort zone. You must take that leap of faith from where you are into a new space of change.
Are you ready - your life is waiting.