Articles and writing with Linda Connors
We are entering a time where many boys, teenagers and men are confused about what it means to be a man. Years ago there were rites and rituals which supporting the teenager into become a man. It was an important time in a teenagers life - he was supported by role models of older men around him - who guided him during the transformation from boy to man.
What is it to be a man?
Have you ever asked yourself this question? What it means to be a man?
The role of the man was once to protect, pro-create and provide. We are in a time where women have as much rights and women and are gradually earning the same as men. On one level women no longer need to be provided or protected for. On another level some women still yearn for this - even though they are capable of doing this for themselves.
Many of today's teenagers and young access have direct access to porn - and this is having an impact on how theses young people view themselves, sex and women. They have a warped view of masculinity based upon domination and power.
What does it mean to be a man? How do you use your strength, leaderships, inner power and abilities for your own good, family, work and society good?
How men can strengthen their masculinity
Men's time - In our would of busyness - many men have forgotten the importance and need to have men's time with their friends. Partner's, families, and work take so much time and there is little left. Priotise your time and when needed dedicated to having time and fun with your male friends - without a female in sight!
Strengthen and develop your abilities - assertiveness, direction, direction, masculine energy, solution focussed, decision makers, motivation. If for whatever reason your current job will not allow you to develop these areas get some outside interests which will. Rock climbing, hiking, rowing, men's groups, etc.
Let go of the fear of the macho masculinity image - Some of male clients are worried about stepping into their full masculine energy - that they may appear macho, dominate and too powerful. That's not masculine - that's about control!
Purpose - Your purpose in life is an important aspect of how you are as a man. Focus on it and live it each day. When you lose your way return back to your purpose to refocus on your life.
The world is waiting for you to step up - our society is waiting for you to step up. In a time where we are do not have strong leaders - we are waiting for you. To be directive, strong, make decisions, and lead - from a place of heart rather than ego.
How to lean into your edge as a man
To grow into your masculinity it's vital that you step out of your comfort zone and lean into you edge - that which may feel uncomfortable, difficult or hard. Do this constantly. You feel unsure, lose your confidence, or fear but keep going. Fear is simply a sign you are stepping out of the comfort zone.
By leaning into your edge you challenge yourself - this is important for growth and development.
Find out more
To find out more about Linda's work with male sexual issues and masculinity call +44 (0) 753 421 3557. Sessions are available through Skype, London Harley Street and Skype.