Today I share a very personal story about the chronic blushing I experienced during my 20s and early 30s and how this impacted my life. I share this to show others who are severely held back by chronic blushing that it is possible to overcome blushing and more forward into space of natural confidence and inner resilience. Where you can start to believe and trust in yourself and all that is within you. To become free from blushing. To grow from the experience and move into something more powerful – the real you.
My Chronic Blushing Story
I am blessed/cursed with Irish skin with a rosy complexion so my cheeks have a natural blush colour. This skin tone also made my blushing much more intense and visible to others. Whenever I was embarrassed, offered a compliment, put on the spot or made the centre of attention my cheeks would respond by going bright red and it was extremely noticeable!
It was the bane of my life, and I lived in constant fear of blushing. It consumed my energy and thoughts and how I communicated and showed up in the world. It also stopped me from moving forward in the workplace as I preferred to play it small and keep safe rather than speaking up and putting myself forward for projects and challenges. Socially I overcompensated by drinking more to feel artificially confident.
Underneath the blushing was my inner world which consisted of low confidence, insecurity, fears, anxiety and a general feeling of not being good enough. On a deeper level it was a sense of shame of who I was as a person - which all manifested into blushing. I hid my light from myself and the world.
When I blushed it felt I was showing the world my weakness and vulnerability.
Blushing became a narrow lens in which I viewed the world and it restricted my life. In a way I only lived half a life as I hid most of me from the world. Important life decisions and choices were made based upon whether I would blush or not. I played small in this game of life and made small decisions. It felt so incredibly frustrating because I knew I had more to give to the world and had the ability to create the life I wanted.
Reclaiming my life back from blushing
The first important step to resolve blushing was acceptance so I stopped the battle of thoughts and accepted it was part of my life at that time. I changed my mindset, learnt to love myself and felt more confident within my own body and around other people. I learnt how to communicate with a strong and clear voice. I broke the physical behaviour pattern of blushing and replaced it with a positive response of calmness and confidence.
Once I moved beyond the fear of blushing I started to accept it the blushing reduced until it eventually stopped. I began to live again with a new expression of life and a deep inner freedom. As a result, a whole new world opened up to me. I began to see opportunities and possibilities and made decisions out of love rather than fear. Ten years ago I left my job and studied and retrained as a hypnotherapist and coach. Since that time I have performed comedy sketches on stage, done public talks and presentations, and when I am attending courses and workshops I speak freely without any fear of blushing.
My inner light now shines within me and it has truly changed my life, connection with myself and others.
Tomorrow I will share how you too can also overcome blushing and begin to live a life of freedom, confidence and inner strength.
About Linda Connors
Hypnotherapist and Coach Linda Connors works with individuals to overcome their fear of blushing and create core change in their life. Appointments are available in London Harley Street, Somerset and online Skype.
Is blushing holding you back? You can change your life starting from today by contacting Linda on 075 3421 3557.
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