Articles and writing with Linda Connors
Just imagine there is a secret doorway that allows you access your most innermost part of you. Behind this door lies two paths. One path is a wealth of knowledge, wisdom and understanding. The other path is for your behaviour patterns and beliefs.
Say for example you may experience early ejaculation. One of these paths lies your potential, your ability to last longer in bed and innate knowledge on how to control ejaculation. The other path is your behaviour patterns and beliefs and why you ejaculation so quickly - and there may be many reasons for this - physical conditioned response, learnt behaviour, or deeper underlying reasons.
This second path is neutral - it's doing what it think it needs to do for whatever reason. It is stuck in a loop and is keep repeating the pattern because that is what it does. There are no positive or negative actions in the subconscious mind - it just does what it does.
Now imagine these two paths reconnect - so the wisdom, knowledge and understanding connects with the route of your behaviour patterns and beliefs. This path brings balance and harmony back into your mind, body and heart because when these two paths cross and connect and the innate wisdom, knowledge and understanding expand it helps the behaviour patterns and beliefs to shift and change.
This example is one element of hypnotherapy. It's very powerful because it allows access into your subconscious mind without the filters of the conscious mind getting in the way.
A very experienced hypnotherapist it is used to help with sexual dysfunction, fear of intimacy, and relationship problems.
How hypnosis and hypnotherapy can help you to live a more fulfilled, loving and successful life
Hypnotherapy provides a path to break down the blocks, shields and barriers which get in your way to live a more fulfilled life. Often these behaviours, patterns and blocks have become so engrained they simply form part of our life - hypnosis helps to shine a light on these areas with understanding, awareness, and compassion so you can change more easily.
Hypnotherapy supports you to open your heart, mind and body, to let go of fears and anxiety and to show up fully in all areas of your life - from career, relationships, sexual, and personal.
Linda Connors is a Leading London Hypnotherapist for executives in Harley Street. Specialising in sexual dysfunction, fear of intimacy, anxiety and relationships she helps people to live a loving, free, fun and successful life.
To speak to Linda and book an appointment please call 075 3421 3557. She is more than happy to talk to you.
There is often a misunderstanding of Hypnotherapy and how it can help improve your life. Many think hypnosis is restricted to fear of flying, stop smoking or weight loss. However, there has been significant advances in the field of hypnotherapy in recent years, and I want to share with you ten benefits of hypnotherapy and how it can help improve your life.
1. Hypnosis works directly with your unconscious mind
Have you ever wondered why do things automatically and out of your conscious awareness without any conscious input - using cocaine, hair pulling, having sexual issues or blushing? The answers live in your unconscious world.
By accessing your unconscious mind, you have the ability to change these behaviour patterns into a positive way of living your life.
2. Creates rapid and effective changes compared to traditional talking therapies
Hypnotherapy is a more rapid, productive and proactive way of working and it is just as caring and compassionate as traditional talking therapy.
Because hypnosis dives deep into the unconscious mind, you get the answers you want quickly, create deep inner change and new ways of living your life compared to traditional talking therapies.
3. Works with complex issues such as addictions and sexual issues
A few years ago hypnotherapy was restricted to fear of flying, weight loss and stop smoking. Today hypnosis is an effective treatment for addiction recovery (porn and cocaine) and sexual issues (premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, vaginismus, low sex drive and orgasm dysfunction).
Important Note: not every hypnotherapist is experienced or trained to work with sexual issues and addictions so it's essential to check their credentials.
4. Creates awareness, understanding and connects to innate wisdom
Hypnosis provides the platform to form a deeper understanding of why you do the things you do. It helps you to understand yourself, gain life-altering insights and connects to your innate wisdom. The advantage of this is that it helps to create life-long changes.
5. Changes inner programmes and behaviour habits
From the moment you were born your unconscious mind builds templates that programme you to behave in certain ways and creates the loop of habits. Hypnosis helps to change the internal programmes to build new behaviours and helps to stop the triggers from manifesting into physical or emotional behaviours and actions.
6. Builds inner resources and skills
Hypnotherapy helps to develop your essential life skills and resources for confidence, self-belief, enhance self-esteem, calmness and inner peace.
7. Builds a stronger mind, body and heart connection
Hypnotherapy helps to develop a mind, body and heart connection. This helps to align your mind, body and heart with your vision and goals and the life you want to live.
8. Heals deep wounds and psychological root causes
Each person experiences the wounds of shame, abandonment, betrayal at different levels. These wounds influence the life choices you make, your relationships and career decisions. Hypnotherapy provides an opportunity to heal these wounds so you experience more inner peace, freedom and confidence.
As hypnotherapy dives in deep to the unconscious mind it helps to locate the psychological root causes to heal and help you to move forward.
9. Opens the heart for more intimacy, love and connection
Hypnotherapy provides a bridge to your heart to heal the wounds which are blocking love, intimacy and connection. Hypnosis helps to open your heart, let go of fear and learn how to embrace love, intimacy and connection for stronger.
10. Helps you to live the life you want
Hypnosis is a proactive approach to creating change and massively improves your life, relationships and career. By combining the nine benefits above you will learn how to live the life you want with deeper love, intimacy, freedom, confidence and success.
About Linda Connors
When I first meet people and I say I'm a Hypnotherapist you can see their eyes spark with interested. So you help people with weight loss, fear of flying or stop smoking they say, or you relax people and in jest you use a swinging watch!
Although Hypnotherapy has grown and developed in recent years it is still very much a misunderstood therapeutic treatment. Some of my clients come to me as a last resort - they have tried counselling, psychotherapy or CBT (often for months or years) with little or no success. As they begin to research hypnosis they begin to view hypnotherapy as a viable treatment option to create change in their life. They may still be a little unsure. I have been in therapy for years - how can you help me when counselling hasn't.
So I wanted to break down some myths and misconceptions about hypnotherapy so you can see the real potential hypnosis has to offer you in your life, work and relationships.
Hypnosis Myth 1: It's just about relaxation
The use of hypnotherapy is more powerful than simply relaxation. It's not a simple case of coming in, closing your eyes, relaxing and listening to the sound of my voice giving you positive suggestions. This format is called suggestion hypnosis and often doesn't add real impact because it doesn't help resolve the underlying issues and drives which are causing the problem.
There is a powerful therapeutic and personal growth component to hypnosis which supports you to create real changes in your mind, thoughts, builds resources and creates new behavioural patterns.
Hypnosis Myth 2: Hypnotherapy can only help stop smoking or weight loss
Old school hypnosis was mainly used for stop smoking, weight loss, or fear of flying. With the right advanced training hypnotherapy can be used for many of life's complex issues which in the past counsellors or psychotherapists would have dealt with often for months or even years. Hypnotherapy today can successfully treat addictions, sexual dysfunction and emotional challenges.
It's important to note that not all hypnotherapist are trained or experienced to work with complex issues. To work at the level I do, I completed 2 years hypnotherapy training, 2 years counselling and psychotherapy training, as well as training in mind-body connection, mind-sets, sex therapy over the past ten years (just to name a few!).
Hypnosis Myth 3: I will lose control
Thanks to Hollywood films and stage hypnosis some individuals fear they will lose control, forced to say things or act in a certain way during hypnosis. Your mind is very powerful and has its own set of values and morals. If I were to suggest something that was not in alignment with your values and morals (not that I would ever do this - or indeed any professional and experienced hypnotherapist) your mind would simply reject the suggestion.
Hypnosis is not about control - it's about working together in a collaborated way, to communicating and working with your unconscious mind and working together in a way meaningful way to create the changes you seek.
Hypnosis Myth 4: Hypnosis is a one session quick fix
Although hypnosis is a quicker form of treatment than traditional talking therapy most people require more than a "one" session approach. To create real long-lasting change it's essential to work with the mindset and thoughts, body and heart and to embody and embed this within you. I work with most of my clients for 6 weeks. For more extreme situations such a severe trauma or sexual abuse this work is completed in approximately 12 weeks.
Hypnosis Myth 5: Hypnosis takes the same time as traditional talking therapy
Traditional taking therapies such as counselling or psychotherapy tend to focuses on the past without empowering the individual to create core changes in their mind, body and heart in the present time. They have grown as an individual and have a greater self-awareness yet they are still experiencing the issue. As many of my clients said "counselling helped to a small degree but I am still struggling in my life".
The therapeutic application of hypnosis is more focused on the present day, giving you the skills and resources to change your life. There are times of course we need to return back to the past for healing - but we don't stay there session upon session. Hypnosis allows the individual to find the answers they seek and create changes within a much quicker time frame than traditional talking therapies.
Hypnosis Myth 6: Hypnosis only works with the mind
Scientific studies have shown that hypnosis influences the brain (if you wish to research look up Mendelsohn et al.’s study on hypnosis and the work by Psychologist David Oakley (University College London). Hypnosis can also work with the body and heart and create deeper mind-body connections. An example is a man experiencing premature ejaculation - hypnosis strengthens his mind-set, changed the physical and conditioned behaviour pattern (early ejaculation) and teaches the man how to gain ejaculation control and to be more connected to his partner (from the place of his heart) rather than focusing on what his penis is doing.
From the moment we were created our unconscious mind has been forming a history of our lives. I like to think of the unconscious mind as being autobiographical - its primary purpose is to store our memories, relationships patterns, each interaction, events and experiences. On a conscious level this informational is simply far too much for us to remember in great detail so it becomes fragmented and we only receive small snippets of this data.
This autobiographical unconscious mind is used to create templates/patterns in our responses and behaviours. The best way to explain this process is through an example. An adult who blushes may have experienced numerous earlier experiences as a child of being bullied, embarrassment, shame or fear. These experiences are record in the unconscious mind and as a adult the experiences / responses manifest into blushing. The adult no longer remembers those earlier experiences and can't work out why they blush! This sounds very simple but it is a complex process that is happening on a deep unconscious and core level.
Inner conflict occurs when the conscious mind attempts to stop blushing. The unconscious mind continues to do what it has been programmed to do and the inner conflict creates more anxiety, thoughts and blushing increase.
The role of hypnosis and the unconscious mind
We have many different ways to access the unconscious mind including hypnosis. Hypnosis works by bypassing the conscious mind or making it less dominate so we can take a journey into part of who you are that doesn't normally see the light of day.
Hypnosis in the unconscious mind works on many different levels. You may have read some old school of hypnosis thoughts that the use of hypnosis is about find the "root cause or causes" and once this is uncovered the issue will naturally dissolve or go away. It's quite a Freudian old fashion way of working and doesn't tap into the persons potential in the unconscious mind. Thankfully our understanding of hypnosis has come a long way since then.
What hypnosis can do in the unconscious mind:
Sometimes people ask me - can you erase a memory or bad experience? The answer to this is no! We can reframe the experience so you can see it in a new light without the emotional baggage. The past has happened and we can't change that but you have the ability to heal, grow and change the way you think of it. Other times some people are concerned that they will uncover a traumatic hidden memory or an individual may ask me to take them back to their childhood to explore if they were sexually abused. This is very rare and the propose of hypnosis is not to uncover hidden memories (as the memories can not be fully trusted anyway). In terms of hidden memories of sexual abuse - again this is very rare and a professional hypnotherapist would never engage with your unconscious mind or you in this way.
The Unconscious way forward through hypnosis
A good way to think of the unconscious mind and hypnosis is that the unconscious mind is an autobiographical book of your life with many different chapters and story lines. The role of hypnosis to return back to some of the pages to update something, heal, change the story or develop resources which you need to support you on your life's journey.
Hypnosis doesn't put you into a "trance" like state. You don't even need to be relaxed to be hypnotised - although relaxation does support the journey more deeply. It's simply a method which directs your attention into your inner most self and your unconscious mind within you to start the journey of creating changes at the core level.
Many put hypnotherapy into the box for simply working with stop smoking, phobias and weight loss. Yet, hypnotherapy is suitable to work with many complex and challenging situations (as long as the Hypnotherapist is trained to do this).
I have trained and studied for over six years - and that doesn't include all the additional training I have undertaken - to be able to work at the level I do. I also have attended many training retreats, workshops, been mentored and coached by some of the world's (in my view!) best. I am driven, hungry for knowledge and passionate and only want to learn from the best!
Hypnotherapy is indeed a powerful process to use - as it dives in deep to the unconscious (it's not as scary as it sounds!) and enables you a deeper understanding of yourself and how to take the appropriate action to resolve the issues in your life.
It's not a magic wand where you come in for a session, close your eyes, be hypnotised and then leave and your magically transformed! Creating change is on one hand simple and on the other hand complex - as we are a system of mind, body and heart. So it's essential to address all parts of you when we work together. This creates a sense of feeling more whole, grounded and centred. You will learn not only how to think differently but also to embody the changes in your body so you actually get a sense (and create new body memories) of what confidence feels like within.
Hypnotherapy is a wonderful process to use for many of life complex problems - from sexual dysfunction, addictions, and the journey of learning to love yourself.
If you are considering working with a hypnotherapist - ensure the person you are seeing are suitably qualified and experienced to work with the issues you are presenting. Especially with sexual issues, addictions, relationships and other life challenges.
I wish you all the very best - and if you want to ask me any questions on hypnotherapy and how it can help in your life get in contact my number is 075 3421 3557.